Overcoming fears liberates and empowers you Think of all the opportunities and experiences you’ll miss because you must wait for someone else to come with you. Say, you’re afraid to travel alone or to take a train, subway or plane by yourself. Your fears will control you, rein in your life and you will always “play small” and never reach your true potential. You may not be able to see the walls, but they are there. We have put ourselves in a prison of our own making. If we spend our entire lives avoiding fear we miss out on so many experiences. We are ill-equipped to deal with the real world should our “bubble-burst” if we have no experience with having to solve problems in our lives. When we live in a bubble safe from life’s challenges we don’t gain experience or wisdom. I choose to “tame” my fears instead of allowing them to “tame” me and my dreams. I’m not saying that I never have fears, because I do. When you master a new challenge, it resets the “set-point” of your confidence at a higher level. You keep building on that confidence each time you do something you’re afraid to do. And, for me-facing my fears has worked.Įach time I have faced one of my fears and, “done it anyway” my confidence in my ability to deal with life’s challenges has risen. I can only give advice based on what has worked for me. I had no choice but to overcome my fear of public speaking and, to my surprise, I found I enjoyed it! Throughout my career I’ve had to get out in front of lots of people in order to bring in business. I learned how to be completely self-reliant. Having no salary was scary too but, I felt compelled to try it. It turned out to be the best thing I ever did.Įventually, I started a whole new career as a 100 percent commissioned financial sales person. I left a stable career and healthy salary fifteen years ago to “reinvent” myself and my life. I found another job and went on to have very rewarding career. I was upset, scared and my fragile confidence was shattered. The strategy I’ve used to deal with the challenges life has thrown at me is to jump in with both feet. I’ve been on a mission to prove to myself that I can overcome my fears ever since. My entire adult life has been fueled by my “need” to overcome the fears instilled in me during childhood.Īlong the way I adopted, “Face your fear and do it anyway,” as my personal motto. That distinct punched in the gut feeling? Ralph Waldo EmersonĬan you recall the awful sense of dread you felt? He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |